Attachment theory is a longstanding and influential set of ideas that forms the basis for a number of therapies used by many psychologists. The theory states that parent-child attachment, which begins at birth, can have a major impact on the child’s brain development, emotional health, and future relationships with others.

Mother's Hand Feeding Food to a Young Girl (13-14) Who Is Making a Face

Robert T. Muller, PhD, (http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/talking-about-trauma/201305/battle-wills-who-controls-mealtime) writes:

“Secure attachment leads to the ability to trust and have positive relationships as an adult, and is developed between the parent and child when the parent responds appropriately and consistently to the child’s needs. The child in turn learns that the parent is a reliable “secure base,” and feels comfortable exploring the environment.

“Insecure attachment occurs when a parent inconsistently or rarely responds to their child’s needs. The child is then unable to use the parent as a secure base because they are unsure if the parent will take care of their needs on a consistent basis.”

Mealtime is a key time for attachment to go either right or wrong. Negative interactions around food have the potential to lead to behaviour problems in children, longer term poor relationships, and conflict. Coercive and/or negative interactions around eating can also lead to eating problems in children, such as obesity, as the child does not learn how to judge their hunger and satiety cues for herself.

There are many ways, however, to make mealtime a positive interaction, for both children and their parents. These include offering small portions of food, not forcing a child to eat, gentle encouragement of exploration of new foods, and generally being positive during mealtimes.

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